You know those days when all your children are getting along so well, sharing, being patient, kind, and loving to one another, being obedient to you, well we aren’t going to talk about those most wonderful times today. No, we’re going to talk about the times when you feel like pulling your hair out, when no one wants to share, you’ve been asked “why” a thousand times, you’ve been told “no, I don’t want to” the children aren’t sharing and continue to argue over and over again, and they won’t do a thing you ask them, and you are just plain fed up. That’s the time we’re going to talk about.
During those times it is so easy to forget that we are children of a wonderful loving God and we forget what he tells us. It is so easy to just go off on our children and yell at them these precious young children whom when everything is going great seem like the best children in the world. They don’t deserve that they are just children, but we do we raise our voices and even yell at them. I didn’t realize how that affected my children until yesterday, we had a bad day, a really bad day. I yelled and I even blamed my children for the attitudes they had and told them that they needed to fix their attitude if they wanted mine to be fixed. Yes, totally embarrassing on my part I can’t believe I told them that, how absolutely stupid of me. But, it wasn’t until my son had a big outburst of anger that I have never seen him have ever before, ever that I realized just how much my yelling had bothered him. But, while he was having those few minutes of showing anger to me, I still didn’t link it with myself and take the blame, after I took a few minutes to sit down with him and play to get him to calm down, he started crying and said “I’m so sorry” and God just said to me, see what you’ve done and why I want you to be gentle, loving, and kind to others. At that moment it just clicked and I took him into my arms and told him that it was my fault not his at all he had done nothing wrong, and we had a wonderful rest of the day. No, everyone didn’t mind the whole time and everything wasn’t perfect, but I changed the only person who had the real problem.
As you may know from previous posts our house is a “no yelling house” and, as you have figured out from this post we are nowhere near perfect at all, we slip up and make mistakes and we sometimes yell. But, I can tell you that after God showed me what I was doing yesterday this will be a no yelling house ALWAYS, I will never again make my child feel that way again. There will be nothing but love, kindness, patience, and gentleness in this house any more, even during those days that seem to be really bad. I will do my part.
Why did I choose to post this? Well, it’s really hard to do, I have questioned if I was actually going to publish it the whole time I’ve been typing but, yes, I am going to because I know I’m not the only one who has had a bad day and lost their temper. Even if no one wants to admit it you have had those bad days too. And, if it takes a moment of me humbling myself to show my faults to change an entire household into having a true no yelling, gentle speaking, kind, patient household then a little bit of my discomfort will be nothing.
Focus on these verses if you feel that it’s one of those bad days and you don’t know how much longer you can take it, just take a few minutes to reflect on these, and talk to God, he will listen and will give you instruction.
“The wise in heart are called discerning, and pleasant words promote instruction.” Proverbs 16:21 -Think before you speak
“Do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” Ephesians 6:4
“Fathers do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.” Colossians 3:21
A wonderful tip that I found from another blogger is that instead of just keeping verses highlighted in your bible, or just putting them in a notebook, write them where you will see them all throughout the day, if you have a homemaking binder, write some encouraging verses on every page, put note cards throughout your house, whatever it takes for you to get the word of God everyday all day. Hope I helped someone with this post today, and just remember, don’t feel like because you did this you are an awful person, although I did feel like that for a good while after but just remember we have a wonderful loving Heavenly Father who forgives us and not only that but He forgets that sin as well. Don’t hang onto that just let it go and love on your children.