Back when Jeremiah was our only child I had plenty of time to spend plenty of one-on-one time with him when I wasn’t working, he didn’t have to share any of that free time of mine with anyone, but now here we are with 4 kids and I’ve been staying at home for almost 2 years now and time does have to be share A LOT!!
The majority of the day when we have playtime, it’s all of us together which is great, I enjoy it, the kids enjoy it, matter of fact, most of the time you can’t separate them for anything. But, they do need special time just with me one at a time no sharing, just my undivided attention focused on them.
They need this from us every day, even if only for a little bit of time, it really means so much to us. Jeremiah especially loves this time and asks to have this time. The other kids don’t ask for it yet, but I’m sure when they are older they will.
If you are a parent of multiple children, take that time with them each day even if it’s only 15-30 minutes a day your child will love it, that special time can turn a child’s whole attitude around, trust me I’ve seen it!
During this time have no distractions, put away your phone, make sure that your other children are settled in doing something else and are occupied and let them know that you’re having special time with their brother or sister and that their time will be soon. Let your child choose what you do or what you play, that makes it an even more special time with you, do it even if it’s something you really don’t want to do or don’t enjoy, do it because they do and once you see the smiles on their faces you will start to enjoy it too.
Do you get that special time with each time, or is this an aspect of your parenting that you want to change? If you do this already, what benefits do you see your child gaining from this special time with you?